My Role Model: Morticia Addams

There are many women I look to for matriarchal inspiration and one of my favorite women is Morticia Addams. She is the original Goth girl; she is eccentric and macabre, but also thoughtful and compassionate. She preaches self-confidence and is devoted to her family. She’s beautiful in a wonderfully unique way, completely detached from societal norms. There’s nothing typical about her and she embraces that. Morticia Addams helped shape my view on how to be a woman. 

Who is Morticia Addams?
For those who don’t know Morticia Addams, Morticia Addams is a character from The Addams Family comic strips, television shows and movies. 
The Addams Family is a fictional household created by American cartoonist Charles Addams, who based Morticia on his first wife, Barbara.

The Addams Family has traditionally included Gomez and Morticia Addams, their children Wednesday and Pugsley, close family members Uncle Fester and Grandmama, their butler Lurch, the disembodied hand Thing, and Gomez’s Cousin Itt. The Addamses are a satirical inversion of the ideal 20th-century American family: an odd wealthy aristocratic clan who delight in the macabre and are seemingly unaware, or do not care, that other people find them bizarre or frightening. 

Morticia is Gomez Addams’s wife and the mother of Pugsley Addams, Wednesday Addams, and later Pubert Addams. Morticia’s maiden name is “Frump” and she has an older sister named Ophelia.

Her creator Charles Addams describes Morticia as the real head of the family, being low-voiced, incisive and subtle, she rarely smiles, has ruined beauty, and is also contemptuous and has a fierce loyalty to her family. She has a garden full of deadly nightshade, hen bane and dwarfs hair.

If you have not yet watched The Addams Family, stop reading now and go watch it. It is worth your time.

Life lessons from Morticia Addams 
Morticia Addams may have been different, but there are many lessons to be learned from her zany character:

  1. Be only, completely yourself.
    Morticia Addams embraces her strange like no other. She is an utter outcast in the town where she lives; the normals don’t understand her witchy ways, dark aesthetic and brazen sexuality. She likes black and is fascinated by the occult, sex, death, chaos and ruin. She is shamelessly strange, openly unusual, happily macabre.
    Morticia never allowed herself to bow down to societal pressures. Instead, she continually believed in herself, loved herself and held her head high. This makes her such an inspiration for those of us who live on the wilder side of the tracks, who sometimes feel like we have to hide who we are to fit in with those around us. 
  2. Looks are not all that counts
    Sure, Morticia Addams is drop dead gorgeous, with her pale skin and long black hair. But, she proved that a that beauty, while it’s nice, is not everything. Beauty can be found in anything and everything, but it does not give something worth.
    Morticia is constantly working on new hobbies in her spooky mansion, always improving. Beauty and brains! 
  3. Sometimes life can be rough, but it doesn’t mean you should give up
    Sometimes life gives you lemons, or in Morticia’s case, stems with roses on top. But you just need to find the solution. If you don’t like the way life looks, make it your own. For example, snip the petals off the stem.
  4. Always look at life from your own perspective
    Where you see a rain storm, Morticia sees an opportunity. All issues in life could be looked at from this perspective. Don’t see a rain cloud as a be all, end all. Try to dance in the rain!
  5. It is important to be the best parent you can be
    Morticia raises Wednesday and Pugsley (and Pubert) to be unique, creative, honest individuals. She sugarcoats nothing and as a result they have are incredibly well-adjusted and unbiased.
    Morticia is understanding mother. She never lets her children play with any (large) weapons, has no problem going into Wednesday’s school to talk to her teacher about how wrong it is to read books about slaying beloved dragons, and even allows for the children to destroy their toys.
  6. True loves exists
    Morticia and Gomez have been married for years and are still desperately in love, lacking nothing in desire. They frequently spend quality time together, from the occasional waltz to extravagant dinners and romantic evening strolls through the family tombs.

Carolyn Jones
Talking about the actresses behind Morticia Addams, I prefer to the Carolyn Jones version rather than the Anjelica Huston. She is hands down the best Morticia Addams ever! Raven-haired, pouty-lipped, wasp-waisted, curvy-hipped Carolyn Jones… she just portrayed Morticia flawlessly.

Carolyn Jones was born on April 28, 1930, in Amarillo, Texas. She will always be best known for her role as Morticia Addams, but this only represents a couple of years out of a career than spanned three decades. Before captivating America as Morticia in the 1960s hit television series The Addams Family, actress Carolyn Jones appeared in 30 movies (including starring roles with Elvis Presley and Frank Sinatra) and had a decade-long marriage to producer Aaron Spelling. After The Addams Family went off the air, she mostly continued to work in television (with roles in Batman, Wonder Woman and Roots), with only a couple of film roles. Carolyn Jones died of cancer on August 3, 1983, in West Hollywood, Los Angeles, California.

Ever since I was young, I have enjoyed watching (the reruns of) The Addams Family television series (TV: 1964-1966). And recently I purchased all seasons of the television series on DVD. I enjoy each episode as much as when I was a little girl, and my love for the long haired beauty remains unbroken. Morticia Addams will forever be my feminist Queen. Perhaps I will work out a Morticia Addams inspired photo shooting one day.